January 19, 2020   7:42pm

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Francine Talks: A few well-educated quips about your older kids . . .

Short and to the point, Francine’s got a lot to say about kids — from her personal experience (2 girls of her own, and 3 stepchildren) and from what she’s learned from the hundreds of interviews she’s conducted throughout her journalistic career.


Here are a few facts from Francine . . .

If you’ve got your heart set on a certain college, shut up about it! And don’t tour that school with your kid either. THAT’S THE ONE THEY WON’T PICK.

Don’t worry if your grown kids never call their siblings.  They will.  When you’re old. Maybe even before.

Step kids:
Don’t bend over backwards to be nicer to your step kids.  Your kids will resent it.

No girl ever lost weight because her mother told her she was fat.  Sit on yourself if you have to, but SAY NOTHING.

Contact Francine at francine@snoety.com.  She welcomes your comments.

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Natalie says: October 30th, 2007 at 3:20 pm

What if your kids are telling you that you’re “fat”?

Francine Russo says: October 31st, 2007 at 9:18 am

Try to psych out what’s behind it. Are they concerned about their own body image and projecting onto you? Are they embarrassed because you don’t meet their age group’s cultural norms? Are they genuinely concerned about your health? Or are they hitting back at your vulnerable spot because you’ve been critical of them? With more than one kid saying this, chances are you’re putting something out there–anxiety about your weight or something else. Or maybe you’re really fat and they’re worried about you. If so, either convince yourself and them that you’re fine with this. Or hie thee to the nearest Weight Watchers.

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