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Cindy Talks: Cindy shares insights she’s gained while figuring it out for herself . . .

We are all born with a great dream for our lives, a dream that may have been derailed along the way by family, career responsibilities or submerged by our own choices. In the second half of life, after your roots have gone deeply into the world, it is time to resurrect the dream.
– Angeles Arrien, cultural anthropologist, author and educator

In June 2005, I walked out of a midtown Manhattan office building and into the rest of my life. After a 24-year banking career, I had negotiated an early retirement and was “leaving to pursue new interests” according to the announcement. I intended to feel liberated, energized, hopeful about the future. Instead I felt listless, confused, even paralyzed.

Friends and family tried to help. They would ask “What will you do with all your free time?”… “What are your interests?”… “What are your passions?” Not only did I have no answers, I wasn’t even sure I understood the questions.

Now it is two years later. Cliché or not, it HAS been quite a journey. I feel a creative energy brewing and have found at least one passion:  Giving voice – my voice – to this rich phenomenon we call mid-life transition and helping other women find their own voices as well.

So welcome to “What’s Next?” – a forum for offering resources, ideas and perspectives as you explore transitioning your life. As we launch, consider this:

Observation 1: Individual change IS good. We’re capable of it; we crave it. But, it’s also hard. Having assumed prescribed roles for much of our adult lives (including yours truly), change can feel radical and disorienting. And that’s OK – both the confusing, frightening part, and certainly the empowering rush when it actually arrives > that energizing breakthrough to a new behavior, a new attitude, a new interest.

Observation 2: Women can do a better job being there for one another. “What’s Next?” provides an opportunity for us to experiment with becoming a stronger community — even a virtual one — supporting and sharing resources with each other. I will try to keep it real as a means to encourage you to comment with your specific experiences, resources, and inspirations, too — anonymously or otherwise — so genuine thanks in advance!


Contact Cindy via cindy@snoety.com


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Susan Fine says: October 17th, 2007 at 1:32 pm

think you need to balance the practical with the emotional–what is your risk profile, how much risk can you afford, can you personally tolerate,and it is ok to be incremental–start with a class before you become a full time student, tutor a kid before you decide to teach–
and dont ask permission, every one sees you a different way

Nicole Sanders says: October 31st, 2007 at 11:03 pm

Sometimes the grass may not be green, but perhaps a pale blue, on the other side. Sometimes, taking the chance and going anyway – realizing that even though the grass IS pale blue, it’s exactly what we needed to open our eyes to the fact that the grass IS greener on the side we are on and WE WILL be just fine…if we embrace, endure and walk through it.

Harriett says: November 2nd, 2007 at 7:34 am

Other times taking the chance means to stick with it even while the green turns to dirt. If you push through to a new season the grass may begin to sprout again.

lois wholey says: November 6th, 2007 at 10:12 pm

All of our mothers have said this a myriad of times, but it’s true. One’s health is everything. I try to make sure I see the day as healthy and therefore, I am infinitely ahead of the whole game. I think to be pain free and disease free is worth celebrating even if life has its unexpected curveballs. You don’t know what you have till it’s gone.

cindy says: November 7th, 2007 at 2:20 pm

I appreciate the perspectives shared above. Susan’s point on change being incremental resonates with me (Certainly this a key point in the What’s Next? post If life’s a stage, who are you? ) BUT, even incremental change requires a deliberate decision to take a risk. I’d suggest that while we benefit from knowing our risk profile we are at a point in our lives where increasing our risk tolerance – even at the margin – can be very envigorating.

Apologies for this late reply – I am a 50 year old blogger – which means I’m just figuring out what it means to blog…

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